I've benefitted from the good ideas of STEP since I took the workshop nearly twelve years ago with Aviva Schwab. It was an eye-opener for me then, and over the years-- as I've studied it, practiced it, coached people, and ultimately begun teaching it-- it's continued to amaze me with it's power.
Everything important we do in life is improved by some forethought. The ideas of STEP nudge us to focus on our job as parents, and give some advance thought to what we want to accomplish. These ideas help us to live up to the standards that we desire for our children. They give us short-term solutions to garden-variety parenting problems, and they help establish the long and loving relationships we seek with our children.
They also get around.
Funny coincidence courtesy of FaceBook recently: two dear friends who I've taught and who are great supporters of the program posted some comments regarding a STEP workshop they'd attended with me...
...a friend of theirs saw these comments and noted the following in her own post:
"...With lots of sacrifice, and as a labor of love, 19 years later my children have excelled. I learned from them as much as they learned from me. I listened to them when they argued with me, because sometimes they had a point. My daughter who was so painfully shy she could cry, now works at a local YMCA fully involved in their after-school program and summer camp and has been established with this for years as well as attending college and always, always got great grades due to her own self-discipline. My son who is a HS senior just handed me his AP college test this morning to show me. 100%. He got the highest grade in the class...."
"...So whenever I doubt myself or go through periods where it's sometimes seems to be not working, overall, I must say that STEP course was what made the difference. I’ve managed to raise two independently thinking young adults who drive their own cars, make their own decisions...and we get along for the most part pretty famously in our democratic household. Wow, I didn't ruin them!!! How'd THAT happen?! "
Turns out she' d also taken STEP-- with Aviva Schwab-- nearly 20 years ago.
How's that for the persistence of good ideas?