Topic for the Day:
How much homework are parents doing?
As an instructor of STEP -- I very much hope that the answer is: NONE.
A lot of our approach with STEP involves stepping back—from pampering our children, from punishing our children, and from being the dreaded “helicopter parents”. You know-- when we can’t refrain from the impulse to hover and “help”, cajole and wheedle, flatter and fight-- over every responsibility that should rightly belong to our children, even the little ones.
So what’s the answer? Let school be your child’s job. You can help in many different ways—for example:
Most important, you can show your child that you have confidence in their power to manage their school responsibilities.
What you shouldn’t do is short-circuit the learning process by making sure their homework is correct. The teacher needs to see where he/she is not getting the lessons across, and where your child may need extra attention or help. If you are helping to hand in “perfect work”, your child is getting a grade they haven’t earned, and the teacher doesn’t see where more learning may need to take place.
So—you’ve already been through the 3rd grade—no need to do it again. Give your child a kiss and a smile and let him or her find their own way in school.
Now, class-- any questions??